Interview With Author Casey Donatello
Tell us about yourself and how many books you have written.
I seem like your typical girl nextdoor but I am hiding a dirty secret… I have been in the swinger Lifestyle since my early 20s. I was having an affair with my older married boss and we discovered this taboo world on Craigslist.
When we broke up I became a highly sought after unicorn (single female) and now I am currently a Hotwife (my husband shares me with other men).
I have written 3 books, all of them following a different part of my journey of sexual discovery and empowerment. I dealt with a lot of guilt, insecurities, shame and uncertainties because I did not live a traditional life and I did not want children. There is a constant double standard where women are degraded for being sexually free. I eventually learned to be brave, empowered and confident by pushing my limits and exploring new things. They are 100% true memoirs. IN BED WITH STRANGERS: SWINGING MY WAY TO SELF-DISCOVERY, SCARLET SWINGS HIGHER & SCARLET SURRENDERS
What is the name of your latest book and what inspired it?
My third book which is the last in this trilogy is titled SCARLET SURRENDERS. It was inspired by the events that led me to meet my future husband in a blind date threesome and how are relationship was affected by the Lifestyle. I really needed to learn to compromise and let down some of the walls I had built to protect my heart from previous partners. Nothing about our relationship has been "normal." We had to find the perfect balance in order to have a trusting relationship while opening our bedroom doors to other men.
Do you have any unusual writing habits?
Yes! I totally binge write! I do not write anything for a long time and then once I am inspired I become obsessed and write 24/7. Not the most healthy habit I admit.
What authors, or books have influenced you?
I love The Catcher in the Rye and anything by Chuck Palahniuk.
What are you working on now?
I am just waiting to see where life takes me, since that is my inspiration.
What is your best method or website when it comes to promoting your books?
Or linktree: https://linktr.ee/inbedwithstrangers
Do you have any advice for new authors?
I was not a trained writer, I just speak from the heart. I was always very nervous about not being a professional but in the end I got my first book published anyway! So just be committed and don't let your fears stop you.
What is the best advice you have ever heard?
Be honest. Tell the truth when you write.
What are you reading now?
Mostly a lot of blogs about how to market and promote!!!
What’s next for you as a writer?
I would love to get a job writing erotica stories that are not based on myself.
If you were going to be stranded on a desert island and allowed to take 3 or 4 books with you what books would you bring?
I would take mine – but only because they are like my diaries. Sometimes I really enjoy randomly flipping through them to remember a specific moment in time that I want to relive. Either something I really enjoyed or a negative event that taught me a valuable lesson – plus the last book is the story of my husband and I falling in love so it is extra sentimental to me. I cherish it.