Tell us about yourself and how many books you have written.
I am more officially known as Lord Hemseys.
I am an internationally accredited mindset coach, who specialises in helping millennials create bulletproof mindsets and indestructible resilience. I have experience and qualifications within psychology and mental health as well as coaching, mentoring and neurolinguistic programming.
I became a mindset coach in early 2019. Many people ask why or how I became a coach. I have mentioned previously that I became a coach after one day I had a moment where I looked at where I was in life and looked back at everything I has been through. During my lifetime I have been through a very messy break-up that involved my son, I have been through grieving the loss of his great-grandparents, I moved to a different country to find work, I had to break the news to my family, friends and son that I was gay, I ended up living in a hostel in a country I was unfamiliar with due to a relationship break up, I have suffered from depression, loneliness and have attempted to even take my own life at one point.
So, when I looked back over all these experiences in my life, I began to question how did I manage to get through it all. I came to the realisation that it was all in my mindset and the way I saw situations.
I now own my own coaching business to help others to achieve their goals and desires. I am passionate about helping as many people as I can to make a change in the world. With my own son having been through challenges himself, I am passionate about helping the children of today and our future generations in creating resilience and a positive mindset as helping to create this early as possible will benefit the children in the future and will ultimately help with the huge increase of mental health issues we are currently facing across the globe.
Building Blocks for a more Resilient Child is the very first book I have ever written. I hope that it helps parents, teachers and carers out there. I am looking to write more books in the future.
What is the name of your latest book and what inspired it?
My latest book is titled; Building Blocks for a more Resilient Child. The idea for this book came to me when my son’s school decided to cancel their sports day on the grounds that it wasn’t fair on those children who weren’t very good at sports.
This caused frustration for me, my son and a lot of other parents. The reason behind cancelling the sports day was due to the fact it was seen a traumatic for a child to lose and be last in a race while another child is classed as a winner.
However, for me this is wrong. Looking at all the great leaders across the world, there is one thing they all agree on and that is you must fail in order to succeed. I see this as we are taking away the resilience of the children, we are not preparing them for real life.
If a child goes all the way through school never being told they have failed or lost at something, what do you think will happen when you apply for their very first job and doesn’t get it? They are not going to have the coping mechanisms to deal with it. Meaning it will lead to anxiety, depression and the feeling of rejection. Causing the increasing number of mental health issues to raise more.
So, as a mindset coach, I thought I had to do something to help prepare children for the real world. That is when my book was born, it has tips, tricks and exercises that can be easily implemented in order to help prepare your child. It talks about the types of anxiety in children and how to help with that and also how to talk to a child about a traumatic event or experience.
Do you have any unusual writing habits?
If I’m totally honest, I don’t think I have. I tend to write my idea down on paper then I sit at my desk and begin to write on my laptop. There are times where writer’s block crept in and I had to go away from my laptop for a while before returning.
As long as I have my coffee topped up I’m happy.
What authors, or books have influenced you?
Where do I start? If I look back from when I was a child I always struggled with reading, it was something I didn’t enjoy at all. Then I later found out that I was dyslexic so it made sense. However, now as an adult, I love reading I can’t imagine not reading something every day.
As I have mentioned I am a mindset coach so it’s probably not a huge surprise that I love reading self-development and self-help books. I believe it’s important to improve myself every day to become the best version of myself I can be. I read some of the classics such as Napoleon Hill – Think and Grow Rich, Wallace D Wattles – Science of Getting Rich, Genevieve Behrend – Your Invisible Power, Rhonda Bryne – The Secret, Dr Joseph Murphy – The Power of Your Subconscious Mind. All of these books have had an impact on my life.
What are you working on now?
Given I only released my book a week ago, I am trying a little break from writing at the moment. I am concentrating on promoting my book and coaching my clients.
Also, it is my son’s birthday in a couple of weeks then the run-up to Christmas so some family time will be my focus.
What is your best method or website when it comes to promoting your books?
This one is tough for me to give a detailed answer on. With my book being self-published, I didn’t have the experience or knowledge of how to promote my book on a large scale. I have promoted my book on social media such as Facebook and Instagram. I have found Facebook is good for getting the word out to people about my book, but the real sales come from word of mouth.
I have done a couple of live Facebook interviews for groups how have requested, which has proven to be a good method of promoting.
Do you have any advice for new authors?
My advice is very simple and straightforward, go for it!
Everyone has a story within them, it’s just about getting it down on paper and sharing it with the world. Don’t sit there worrying about what if’s… Have faith and go for it.
I remember at the beginning of my book I thought, but there are already so many books out there to do with resilience for children. But then I realised yes, there might be, but none of them has my spin, my take, my experience of resilience with children and more importantly, none of them features me and I am a unique individual. We are all unique and have something special to offer the world.
What is the best advice you have ever heard?
I have three quotes that I live by every single day. They are:
If you must doubt something, doubt your limits.
Whatever you think about, you attract.
Thoughts become things – if you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand.
They are very simple quotes but they are so powerful.
Lastly, the two most powerful words in the world are I AM, because whatever your say of those two words shapes your future. Be kind to yourself.
What are you reading now?
At the moment I am reading Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty. I find his stories, and way of life intriguing. How simplicity can really help with your state of mind.
What’s next for you as a writer?
Interesting questions, at the moment I don’t know. But what I do know is I will be writing more books in the future, I just don’t have the plans to at the moment.
If you were going to be stranded on a desert island and allowed to take 3 or 4 books with you what books would you bring?
1. Napoleon Hill – Think and Grow Rich
2. Rhonda Bryne – The Secret
3. Genevieve Behrend – Your Invisible Power
Those three would be my choice of books. They help to open the mind up to huge amounts of possibilities, meaning I could use my mindset to keep myself alive and survive on the island.
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